Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. If you think you’re worthwhile, you’re more likely to make friends, get good jobs and have more opportunities, which in turn means that you feel even more worthwhile and the upwards spiral continues. Unfortunately, self-esteem can be a negative spiral too. Having a lack of self-worth leads to fewer opportunities and further depletions of self-worth. It’s an important cycle to break as low self-esteem has wide-reaching negative effects on your mood, behaviour, beliefs and experiences.


Probably the most common cause that I have seen among my clients is having grown up with very critical parents. Other common causes can include being bullied at school, being cheated on in a relationship, or perfectionist tendencies that mean you never measure up to your own standards, even if there is a lot of evidence of your successes. Low self-esteem is reinforced by the negative self-talk in your own head and the negative beliefs you hold about yourself, so it’s important to learn strategies to change these recurrent patterns. Low self-esteem is often quite unrelated to actual success in people’s lives – I have seen several clients who were Head Girl or Boy at their school, Dux, Captain of the First XV et cetera, and yet they still think they’re not good enough. Self-esteem has far more to do with the voice in your head than with any kind of external measures of success.


I have seen clients do very well for low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is reinforced by a negative voice inside your head and an internal scanner that only notices evidence of your failures, rather than evidence of your successes. Helping people to change what they give attention to and to start rewiring their thinking patterns into positive ones is a first step to resolving low self-esteem. For some people, they also need to address an experience in their past that has sapped their confidence, or clear some old beliefs they took on from critical parents or from a bad relationship. The Switch, a four day course in a small group of people, teaches you about all of these areas, as well as giving you techniques to use on yourself to change them.


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  • What do other people like about you?
  • What do you like about yourself?
  • What are you are good at?
  • What achievements have you made in your life?
  • Which good qualities are part of your personality?
  • Which aspects of your looks and your body do you think are attractive?
  • Why should someone want you as a friend?
  • Why should someone want you as a partner?
  • Why should someone want you as an employee?
  • Why should someone want you as a mother/father/daughter/sister… (whichever roles you have)?



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Disclaimer: We are not medically trained and therefore did not diagnose these clients ourselves. We rely on client information about their diagnosis from their health professionals and we recommend clients to return to their doctors after our treatment to confirm that they no longer have their condition and to be advised about safe weaning from their medication. We cannot guarantee results, as every individual is different, however, we have seen excellent results for the vast majority of our insomnia clients, and have followed them up for a year to confirm that they are maintaining their positive changes. Note – I taught The Lightning Process for 8 years to over 1200 clients with excellent results. Now I teach The Switch instead, and have been really excited by the results that they are achieving.

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